I often tell clients making a shift, particularly in a family system dynamic, is an investment in change. It is not about making dramatic sweeping changes, as in “I’m going to run a marathon” but rather small meaningful changes that compound, think “I’m going to walk a little bit each day”. The theory is a small but meaningful change will compound over time. Finding little changes we can easily execute will create big differences and become new habits.
An “investment in change” is also a valuable way to view letting go of the things that don’t serve us. Figuring out and prioritizing is a helpful tool as we work through major life changes. For example blocking off time for work, time for family and time for self-care on a weekly calendar, which protects time for self-care. Self-care doesn’t necessarily translate into luxurious items or pampering. Self-care can simply waking up 15 minutes earlier for a cup of coffee or a walk or run. It can be fitting in a yoga class or meditation. Preserving and nurturing self opens us all up to be our best selves.
Transitioning into a single- parent family household can feel overwhelming. It is not selfish to protect our time and energy. It is necessary.